Setting Intentions with the Black Eyed Peas

Evenings are tough for me.  I’ve always been a morning person, awakening most days  with high spirits and goals (I started writing this at 5:48am), but finding that as the day wears on, so does my energy level. From late afternoon to bedtime, I’m often battling a mixture of fatigue and sometimes even dread.    And as we parents know, this is never optimum, since the “second half” of our day begins after school.  So I’ve decided to try to change all that with a little help from the Black Eyed Peas…

I gotta feeling, woo hoo, that tonight’s gonna be a good night...

Welcome to my first blog entry, dedicated to my website’s subtitle: Setting Intentions. Creating Connections.  In my Mindful Parenting classes last week I talked about the importance of setting intentions as parents.  I have found that when we parent from a more intentional place, we are more likely to connect to those things that are most important to our families, and react less.   As the Kabat-Zinns write in their book, Everyday Blessings, The Inner Work of Mindful Parenting, when we form an intention, and that intention, in turn, informs and guides our thoughts and actions, we are more likely to stay reminded about what’s important and to see the big picture. And my big picture intention is to work to stay connected with my children

That tonight’s gonna be a good  night...

I know that the afternoons and evenings are probably when my boys need me the most.  That after facing all that they do for 6-7  hours away from home, they need me to listen, support, respond–bacically to be present for whatever they need. So I’m setting an intention that evenings this week are going to be good.

That tonight’s gonna be a good, good night...

I’ve decided to channel my inner Fergie in all that I do this week, to see if setting that intention, allows me to have more space and energy for my boys.  So whether I’m circling around for a parking spot after school or navigating the Friday night crowds at the football field, I’m gonna inhale:

Here we come, here we go, we gotta rock, Easy come, easy go, now we on top


Whether I’m overseeing homework meltdowns or defrosting chicken #236, I’m gonna exhale:

Feel the shot, body rock, rock it, don’t stop, Round and round, up and down, around the clock!

I’m using the BEP’s wisdom on:

Monday Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Saturday to Sunday…you know what we say, say, p-p-p-party every day.


So if any of you need some motivation in making the evenings a little less exhausting and a little more joyful, join me in giving it a try.  Intentional, mindful parenting moments and a little—

Let’s burn the roof, and then we’ll do it again…woo-hoo!!!

Mindful Parenting Playlist Song#1 “I Gotta Feeling” Black Eyed Peas broncoweb .

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  • Adrienne

    I LOVE this and boy was the timing perfect! I was just grumping around the house picking up junk and vacuuming, and feeling very sorry for myself and irritated by the mess my children had made during their creative play today. I am soooo excited you will be blogging. I miss getting your perspective. I think I just need a gentle nudge to help remind me what I am doing, why I am doing it and how I want to do it. Awesome!! Tonight’s gonna be a good, good night!

  • chris mcclain

    Awwww – Shaila!! How completely wonderful it is to see your site, and with a blog no less. Awesome. It looks great. This topic is right on cue with me (as is everything you provide insight on) – this is an extremely hard time of day for me. Now matter how excited I am to go get my girlies in the afternoon, my patience disappears quick, hubby isn’t home til late, and emotions run high. You’re advice is right – when intentions are set (and of course, I give myself extra time for things), things go much smoother. I will try my best to remember this more.

    Again – so excited to hear from you. I miss your class soooo… snif. xoxo


  • Tova

    A perfect reminder that they need us after 6-7 hours away! Talk about putting it in perspective! I am going to adopt your intention. Thank you.

  • Marisela

    Totally true, totally cool! What an easy fun way to recite a Mantra for everyday life. Thank you and Congratulations!!! for the website , Shaila. Sending lots of good wishes your way…

  • megan

    What a great way to remind myself to set my intention and keep it in the forefront of my mind…music speaks to me like nothing else. Reading your blog I pictured myself in similar situations, but feeling different about it than in the past because I set my mind to it. Thanks Shaila! As always, you rock!
    Megan, mother of one

  • Brenda

    This is so GREAT!
    It made me laugh, ’cause everyday I make a list of ALL that I plan to accomplish during my evening “free time”… yea, dream on Mama, dream on!

  • Devon trunnelle

    Shaila, great advice. I know how you and I are on the same page when it comes to bath time…although those days of sitting next to the tub with your boys are over! My boys have adopted a ritual of dancing after the bath. Many times the Black Eyed Peas are on the playlist. It puts everyone in a better mood and it’s a great way to dry off!

  • Nezray2001

    Hey Shaila,
    Congratulations on your blog.
    Thanks for putting yourself out there as always not only to connect with your family but to connect us all as a greater community.
    I am laying in bed on my lap top with pneumonia. So, while the house explodes around me as the kids try to cook and make bigger messes, then check in with worried meltdowns, I am reminded of two things. 1) I got no Fergie tonight. 2) I can still find some inspiration to help me guide the intention of what I CAN do. So, when they come in perplexed at how to help, I plan to hug them and share with them a few anecdotes about how frequently I burned pans when I first started cooking…and still do. ..and laugh with them. And when my eldest says, “I want to cook a good dinner for you, mom. I want to make you feel better.” I can say, “I always have that goal and it doesn’t always work out for me either, even when I’m not sick. Where do you think Fruit For Dinner Movie Night came from?”
    I am listening to an Irish folk band called Captain Jack and I am honing my intention for the evening…we will be having papaya and melons for dinner tonight and it will be delicious!

  • Lynsey Russell

    Love this shalia! This is my first time on your blog! Cant wait to get thru the rest!!